Any relationship is the responsibility of both parties. Men and women make mistakes alike. However, there are those that only ladies are capable of admitting. If you try to keep them to a minimum, you can again achieve harmony in your relationship with your partner.
Instructions
Step 1
Motivate action, don't create inaction.
Oddly enough, it is easier for a woman to point out the shortcomings of her man than to emphasize his merits. But there is a huge gap between these two methods of delivering information. If a man constantly says that he is lazy, earns little, does not give gifts, it will be easier for him to come to terms with this position than to start acting. It is much better to motivate a man to act, for example, by shifting responsibility for certain issues onto him. Explain how uncomfortable or sad you are that his income does not meet your expectations. Tell me how nice it would be for you to receive from him even a small bunch of flowers. It will be easier for a man to relieve you of discomfort than to bear responsibility for it in the future.
Step 2
Stop reading notation.
The fatal mistake of a woman is constant lectures and lectures. A man in such a situation will always feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable, like a naughty schoolboy. And sometimes women are so inventive that even any surprise from their chosen one can turn into a living hell. If you want to live happily ever after with a man, stop constantly “nagging” him. Try to see at least something positive, even in what seems unacceptable to you.
Step 3
Discuss everything about housekeeping ashore.
A common situation when a woman thinks that her husband is obliged to help her with the housework, and he, in turn, thinks differently and expects some leisure after a hard day, where the woman he loves should help him relax. The result is a conflict of two interests and unjustified expectations. The best thing you can do in this situation is to negotiate. Properly distribute responsibilities around the house: what will you be responsible for, and what your spouse will be responsible for, then you will no longer have misunderstandings on this issue.
Step 4
Maintain a sweet spot in your relationship.
Another important point in a relationship with a man is the ability not to go to extremes. The first extreme is that a woman-leader or a woman-mother kills any sexual attraction in a man, where “sex” and “mother” are simply incompatible, and a man may start looking for another woman altogether. The second extreme is readily available under any circumstance. This tactic is also erroneous, because a woman thereby not only devalues herself, but also loses her value in the eyes of her partner.
Step 5
When raising children, instill in them love and affection.
Children often show affection unconsciously, however, with age, when a girl begins to acquire various inhibitions and complexes, especially after experiencing the first negative experience with a man, as a result, she closes her emotions and feelings deep inside herself. And sometimes her partner may need just incredible efforts to re-open her. That is why it is so important from early childhood to help your daughter cope with any negative emotions, and not suppress them inside yourself. Do not criticize and discard moralizing, only empathize and support.
Step 6
Give the man free speech.
It is generally accepted that women are incredible talkers, but men are quite difficult to bring to a conversation. But men, like women, also need to communicate, conveying their thoughts and plans to their half. The task, of course, is not an easy one, but for a start everything can be wrapped up in some kind of game. When your chosen one once again asks you to cook breakfast for him, you can tell him something like this: "Tell me three sweet words, and I will prepare the best breakfast in the world for you." By accustoming a man to this kind of communication for some time, you will soon notice how he himself will begin to communicate with you, saying compliments and other words that are important to you.
Step 7
Be beautiful and attractive anytime, anywhere.
You can often find a situation where a woman tries to look attractive to anyone, just not to her man. She is ready to stand in front of the mirror for hours when she goes to visit or to work, but she does not consider it necessary to look as attractive at home for her husband. In fact, this is a big mistake that must be eradicated and not allowed in any case. Be attractive always and everywhere, and especially for your man.
Step 8
Don't flirt in front of your husband with friends or coworkers.
Oddly enough, some women resort to such flirting not at all because they really want to flirt, they just do not know any other way to win over the friends of their chosen one. Such signs of attention on your part can be interpreted exaggerated and unambiguous by both your chosen one and his friends. You run the risk of not only not endearing them to you, but also completely ruining the impression about you.
Step 9
Do not criticize your chosen one in public.
Never, under any circumstances, do not allow a situation for your man to listen to criticism from you (albeit fair) in public. Do not wash dirty linen in public, otherwise it can hit a man's vanity very hard, up to a break in relations. If you have something to say to him, say it in private, strangers (even relatives) should not participate in this.
Step 10
Learn to be happy.
What is happiness? Few can give a clear and concise answer to this question. Nevertheless, in relationships we are all looking for happiness, without even knowing what it is and how to feel it. Look for your happiness in relationships, cultivate this feeling in yourself and in your children.
