The realization that you are not like everyone else is always difficult. But it is even more difficult to tell about your unusualness to your loved ones, on whom you depend to one degree or another. Moreover, homosexuality has long been prosecuted in Russia, which means that in the minds of older people it is still illegal.
How to start a conversation
Before talking about being gay, you should carefully weigh the pros and cons. When talking to loved ones about this sensitive topic, consider the influence in your family of a fundamentalist, religious or other background. If you have heard negative judgments about homosexuals from your family more than once, think about whether it is worth starting this conversation at all? You may be separated from your family or forcibly sent to a psychiatrist.
When choosing the time to talk about being homosexual, consider the setting. Many people, unfortunately, wanting to make their relatives sick, admit their "blueness" during a quarrel. Of course, this only worsens the situation, since the negative from the quarrel is added to the possible negative against your sexual orientation.
You can start a conversation about your sexual orientation with the following words: “I want to tell you something about myself / I want to share with you / I want you to know something, because I love / appreciate / respect you very much”. After these words, acting according to the circumstances (all of a sudden, the mother has already collapsed with a heart attack), you can confess your homosexuality.
Depending on the circumstances, you can choose different tactics for starting and conducting a conversation.
Repentance
When you confess to your parents, insist that you are to blame, but that you will try to heal. You have already signed up for a consultation with a psychotherapist, since with all your heart you want to become a heterosexual and eventually marry a worthy girl, conceive children, and then raise grandchildren.
Whether your words are true or not is not important. The important thing is that this tactic will give your family time to get used to the idea of your homosexuality. In the future, it will be possible to complain about the ineffectiveness of the treatment due to genetic failures. Thus, you even shift some of the blame onto your parents.
A bet on intelligence
You don't have to start a conversation about your sexual orientation yourself, just make transparent hints: bring magazines home, watch movies, listen to gay and gay music. During conversations with relatives to the place, give examples of great homosexuals: Tchaikovsky, Michelangelo, Uyalda.
Try to go "by contradiction". After all, lesbian love is not satisfactory, why is “blue” love so bad? Give your family a couple of magazines about female same-sex love.
The family is to blame
For some time before the conversation, withdraw into yourself, pretend that you are in deep depression. Or, on the contrary, behave too wildly, in a way that you have never behaved. In any case, the family should have a question: what is happening to you?
Then you can blame your relatives for the fact that they paid little attention to you, were always busy with themselves or work, and you were left on your own. Here is the result - your non-traditional sexual orientation. You can complain that relatives are constantly quarreling. But this tactic will work if your accusations are true.
