Building strong, happy relationships is a long and painstaking process that requires the equal involvement of both partners. But it is enough to observe simple truths to make your relationship even stronger and more harmonious.
Instructions
Step 1
Any meeting gives us valuable life lessons.
Chatting with people is an endless experience. Not a single meeting in our life happens by chance and does not pass without a trace. If someone hurt, he taught a lesson, while someone, on the contrary, made him happier and better. And the more valuable are the pleasant moments in the relationship, the more you were able to see and feel the other side of the coin.
Step 2
People tend to change.
No matter how anyone says that people don't change, you shouldn't think so categorically. Over time, any of us gains new life experience, changes our outlook on life and our attitude to the world around us. Do not be upset if you and your loved one have ceased to understand each other, all the more you should not blame him or yourself for anything. Changes are okay, maybe they even went to some benefit for one of you.
Step 3
Relationships do not tolerate shackles.
There is an excellent folk wisdom that says that you cannot be forcibly cute. And this is true for any relationship. If a person wants to be with you - he just will, if not - no shackles, handcuffs, exhortations will help. Just be with those who are comfortable with you and who are comfortable with you.
Step 4
Don't try to change the other person.
No matter how much we want to change someone, everyone can change only himself. Learn to perceive loved ones as they are. Do not judge harshly or try to break. If a person wants, he can change for your sake, but this should be his sincere voluntary desire.
Step 5
The laws of "boomerang" in relationships are also true.
“As you sow, so you reap,” this law also holds true in relationships. If you sow kindness, care and affection, then you have every chance of receiving the same in return, sometimes even in greater quantities. But remember that this rule also applies to negativity. The negative will always be answered with negative, and it will be very painful and unpleasant.
Step 6
Don't hold grudges against each other.
The ability to forgive is perhaps one of the fundamental laws of any relationship. Forgiving each other does not mean showing weakness, on the contrary, only strong-minded personalities are capable of forgiving, understanding and accepting partners. As you forgive, you become wiser by not letting past grudges spoil your future relationship.
Step 7
Don't let things go by themselves.
Remember, building any relationship is a long, mutual, painstaking job. Without your mutual participation, the relationship will not build on its own. They must be built on mutual understanding, respect for each other, sincerity and openness.
Step 8
Leave controversy and humiliation to someone else.
Any conflicts in relationships leave an unpleasant indelible mark. Try not to swear or argue, especially over trifles. Think about what is more important to you at the moment: to be right or to be loved? Try to avoid sharp corners, although this is not easy. However, remember that even a strong relationship can destroy just one, carelessly spoken word.
Step 9
Love and being in love are two different things.
Never confuse love and being in love, so as not to deceive yourself or your partner. Love is an all-consuming unselfish service to a loved one, full acceptance of both his merits and demerits, respect and sincerity. Falling in love is a fleeting flirtation, which may not lead to anything serious in the future.
Step 10
Don't cling to a relationship that is long gone.
If the relationship has long outlived its usefulness, without leaving the former euphoria and joy in your life, you should let them go. You do not need to keep people who give you discomfort and be afraid to change the environment.
Step 11
Appreciate those who are always by your side.
To be grateful to a loved one for warmth, care, love and devotion is one of the most important rules of any relationship. Appreciate every moment spent together; pay attention to those who make you happy here and now, so that you do not have to regret it in the future.
