Who among the people has not worried about rumors and gossip at least once? Of course, there is a certain category of individuals who enjoy gossiping about them. Such people who are looking for popularity and strive to be in the center of attention are classified by psychologists as a demonstrative type. A person of this kind not only enjoys rumors about his person, but also provokes their appearance in every possible way. However, the bulk of people want to protect themselves from gossip. So how can this be done.
Who suffers the most from gossip?
The people who suffer the most from gossip are those who take slander to heart. Psychologists claim that pedants and anxious personalities are especially susceptible to worries about this.
Pedantic people often get stuck in negativity for a long time, often think about rumors about themselves, are unable to switch to other thoughts and thus torment themselves. As a result, such a person accumulates negative and destructive emotions - resentment, anger and aggression, which lead them to problems, including health problems.
Anxious people have low self-esteem and self-doubt. Hearing gossip about himself, such a person is very worried. He thinks that the people around him will believe rumors and reject him. Tormented by strong experiences, an anxious person can reach a nervous breakdown.
How to protect yourself from gossip
Find the rationale even in the negative. As unpleasant as this may be for you, try to listen to constructive criticism. Thanks to this, you can get a lot of useful information from which you will find out which disadvantages are worth working on. Perhaps you need to change your behavior in some way.
To protect yourself from gossip that can damage your reputation, you can yourself throw a few topics for discussion with colleagues. With this red herring, you can distract them from information that could actually harm you. It is best to throw up a topic about a new lover, obsessive boyfriend or ex-husband-tyrant.
If you sincerely ask a gossip to bring you up to date on a case that is supposedly already known to everyone, rumors about you will lose their secrecy and cease to excite others. After all, there will be no mystery in gossip. It will be good if at the same time you demonstrate that you are not offended by gossip behind your back.
Also try to treat any gossip about you with a healthy sense of humor. After a while, they will stop talking badly about you, because ill-wishers and envious people expect a negative reaction from you, and you only laugh with them and play along with them.
If, despite all your efforts, gossip persists in your head and bothers you, use the following psychological trick. Try to create a mental defense for yourself. To do this, imagine that you are surrounded on all sides by mirrored walls.
The shape of such a structure may resemble a tower or a cocoon. When someone around you tries to hurt you, the mirrored walls will, as it were, return him to his attacks on you. Imagine your mirror structure whenever evil gossip is trying to convey to you. Gradually, you will learn to completely ignore them, and your life will be filled with even greater harmony.
