Giving a speech at a funeral is not easy. To make the speech sound appropriate, you need to prepare it in advance and rehearse it, you should not rely on improvisation.
What and how to say
Not only relatives and close friends of the deceased can make a mourning speech. Moreover, most often the opening of the farewell ceremony is entrusted to a friend, colleague or acquaintance of the deceased, since his loved ones are at the mercy of emotions and can hardly prepare a beautiful and solemn performance. If you were instructed to deliver such a speech, you need to collect information about the deceased from various people who knew him well. It is very important to correctly calculate the length of the speech (no more than five minutes) and rehearse it well.
Be sure to introduce yourself at the beginning of your speech to indicate your relationship with the deceased to everyone present. In your speech, mention the good that the deceased did in his life, it is best to say not some abstract things, but talk about what touched you. Tell us about the best qualities of the deceased, mention his hobbies, interests, habits, remember some pleasant moments with his participation. Do not drag out your speech, speak calmly and slowly. You can end your speech with verses that the deceased loved, if this is too long a poem, read out a passage.
Farewell to a loved one
If you have to give a speech at a friend's or friend's funeral, more personal memories are appropriate. Do not talk about disagreements and quarrels, do not present the deceased in an ambiguous light. If you feel strong enough in yourself, you can tell a funny story about the deceased, supplement your speech with light, harmless humor, but you should be careful with this so as not to hurt anyone's feelings.
In a speech at the funeral of a brother or sister, it is very important to express your willingness to express support to your parents, for them the death of a child is a terrible loss. Therefore, it is very important to emphasize in their speech that they are not alone, that they have you as a support. Do not restrain your emotions in this case, do not try to joke if you do not find the strength in yourself.
If you are giving a speech at your spouse's funeral, be sure to talk about how you met, what you went through together, how you coped with difficulties, mention the plans that you did not have time to implement. Support his or her parents by speaking from the heart.
At the funeral of any of the parents, in your speech, first of all, express your gratitude for everything that they have given you, for life lessons, upbringing, invaluable experience, for all the time you spent together. Do not try to talk for a long time, no one expects this from you. Don't suppress your emotions.
In any case, at whatever funeral you are giving a speech, be sincere. Do not use clichés or overly pretentious constructions; keep your speech as simple as possible.
