So that the desire to do good does not turn into even more troubles, you need to understand the laws of helping. There are rules outlined in authoritative sources that help you learn how to do good.
At all times there have been people who do good and do evil. If everything is clear with the latter: it causes harm to the person, nature, social organization or the state and its consequences are predictable and destructive, then with “good” everything is much more complicated.
There is one saying among the people: the path to hell is paved with good intentions. That is, a person cannot always predict how his help will turn out for another. This happens because of the discrepancy between the desires and aspirations of people, and it is not always possible to find out what is actually required to improve the situation in a particular individual. But at critical moments, you always need to act as demanded by philanthropy and concern for the life and health of your neighbor.
How are religions taught to do good?
In Christianity and Buddhism, there are statements that are practically similar in meaning: "Let your good go on the water without regrets, and it will return to you in many times greater volume" and "Let your right hand not know what the left is doing." What do prophets report and what do they teach? The fact that the basis of good deeds should be selflessness. Expecting reciprocal help or gratitude is unacceptable for someone who has sincerely decided to help a neighbor.
How does this fit in with popular wisdom about the "path to hell"? Fully. These religious teachings confirm the truth: only a person with a pure heart without a shadow of self-interest is given to recognize what is actually required to provide help. From the point of view of extrasensory perception and bioenergetics, it looks like this: the subconscious of a good-natured person will tell the mind whether it is necessary to do good in this situation. If so, then there will be a feeling of compassion and pity, there will be a desire to help.
About self-development and related patterns
The difficulty here is that few people know about the duality of emotions and know how to work with their subtle energies. Therefore, often behind human feelings of empathy and condolences there are mechanisms of "pulling" other people's troubles onto themselves. This comes from a misunderstanding that each person should go through their own life lessons, and before giving her this most serious test, the universe sent signals more than once that it was time to think about the causes of troubles and correct them. But the man was deaf, because in the hustle and bustle of everyday life he had forgotten how to listen to himself and work to improve his soul.
Therefore, the science of doing good begins with one's own self-development. She does not exclude help and support from a neighbor in difficult times, and invites those who have already advanced on the path of self-improvement to share their knowledge. They will help a person independently figure out the reasons for their failures and eliminate them.
